Yet another fine blog…. 😅

By A.L.E.X. (aka. the free E.L.F.)

The Gentle Parent.

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Effective Parenting. 1
  1. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words.
    Yelling
    : « It silences your message. Speak quietly, so your children can hear your words, instead of just your voice. » 2
  2. Teach control.
    Control
    : « Teaching our children—to control themselves—is far more effective, than trying to control our children. »

    • Model, don’t manipulate.
    • Lead, don’t intimidate.
    • Support, don’t shame.
    • Encourage, don’t threaten.
    • Guide, don’t punish.
    • Listen, don’t lecture.
  3. Resolve problem, don't aggrevate them.
    Resolve
    : « Children are not problems. They have problems. Focus on helping your child, not fixing your child. »
  4. The problem is choice, as well as it's the solution.
    Utilize
    : « Human nature dictates: If you have a weapon, and believe you have the right or need to use it, then you’ll use it. Don’t build an arsenal against your children to control them. Instead gather resources to work with your children to guide them. That’s the secret to a peaceful, happy home. »
  5. Aid in solving problems.
    Discipline
    : « Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer retribution for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retributions. »
  6. Respond with help.
    Respond
    : « Reactors react to a crisis, with a meltdown. Responders respond to a crisis, with help. To raise a mature—stable—adult, be the first responder, not a nuclear reactor. »
  7. Hint at cooperaion, not at compliance.
    Example
    : « Inviting cooperaion—rather than forcing compliance—grows leaders, instead of reaping followers. »
  8. Keep calm, and stay focussed.
    Breathe
    : « Freaking out on your child, for freaking out. Is as hypocritical, as it is ineffective. Slow down. … Breathe. … Then act like the adult you want them to become. »

I’ll post the source for this blog entry here, for future reference’s sake.


[Yelling]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/25f1b51fc8afb45995fe6013bf3b1de7/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio1_1280.jpg
[Control]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/3217b95a6d4f1c13c4bb298a70c56146/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio2_1280.jpg
[Resolve]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/5c17cb90ad29970e9426425d701b43c7/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio3_1280.jpg
[Utilize]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/afa37e0ca2bb1f8b51b1cbc8af83ae08/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio4_1280.jpg
[Dscplne]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/b2fdf594b6445d6152373cf980a3421b/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio5_1280.jpg
[Respond]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/41b9caa1887d8119146104fb19c28e70/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio6_1280.jpg
[Example]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/2a343313ec3b066b2997a09d7abc0372/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio7_1280.jpg
[Breathe]: https://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/e4727b52683882b023638443a10b4fe1/tumblr_mzzc5qEKly1sklgtio8_1280.jpg

[EP]: http://www.amazon.com/The-Gentle-Parent-Practical-Discipline/dp/0988995832 "The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline (A Little Hearts Handbook)."
[MDR]: http://en.support.wordpress.com/markdown-quick-reference/ "I haven't quite gotten the <dl> definition list, type, and description types down in md. *sighs*"

##### Effective Parenting. [^1]

1.  ![Speak quietly so your children can hear your words.][Yelling]
    Yelling  
    :  « It silences your message. Speak quietly, so your children can hear your words, instead of just your voice. » [^2]
2.  ![Teach control.][Control]
    Control  
    :  « Teaching our children—to control themselves—is far more effective, than trying to control our children. »
    *  Model, don't manipulate.
    *  Lead, don't intimidate.
    *  Support, don't shame.
    *  Encourage, don't threaten.
    *  Guide, don't punish.
    *  Listen, don't lecture.
3.  ![Resolve problem, don't aggrevate them.][Resolve]
    Resolve  
    :  « Children are not problems. They *have* problems. Focus on helping your child, not fixing your child. »
4.  ![The problem is choice, as well as it's the solution.][Utilize]
    Utilize  
    :  « Human nature dictates: If you have a weapon, and believe you have the right or need to use it, then you'll use it. Don't build an arsenal against your children to control them. Instead gather resources to work with your children to guide them. That's the secret to a peaceful, happy home. »
5.  ![Aid in solving problems.][Dscplne]
    Discipline  
    :  « Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer retribution for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retributions. »
6.  ![Respond with help.][Respond]
    Respond  
    :  « Reactors react to a crisis, with a meltdown. Responders respond to a crisis, with help. To raise a mature—stable—adult, be the first responder, not a nuclear reactor. »
7.  ![Hint at cooperaion, not at compliance.][Example]
    Example  
    :  « Inviting cooperaion—rather than forcing compliance—grows leaders, instead of reaping followers. »
8.  ![Keep calm, and stay focussed.][Breathe]
    Breathe  
    :  « Freaking out on your child, for freaking out. Is as hypocritical, as it is ineffective. *Slow down. …* **Breathe.** … Then act like the adult you want them to become. »

[^1]: Source: [The Gentle Parent][EP].
[^2]: [Markdown reference][MDR]

  1. Source: The Gentle Parent. ↩

  2. Markdown reference ↩